Friendship Rehab.
27Oct06
A friend of mine constantly takes advantage of me. We’ll make plans to do something and then at the last minute some “castrophe” in her mind would occur, and the plans are off. It really bothers me. For example, earlier in the week we made plans to visit the bar scene in Salem. I was really looking forward to going, even though the bar scene isn’t my thing. Just to get out, mingle and have a drink or two. Tonight was just another example of how undependable my friend really is. Waiting for her to call and it was about 10:30p. No offense to anyone who goes out that “late”, but I didn’t want to be out at all hours of the night. It’s not college anymore. She doesn’t answer her phone, but I know it’s off. To avoid confrontation, she text messages me saying she just got out of work. To be a grown-up, a grown-up would call their friend letting them know they are scheduled for later than they expected to. At least give the other person the heads up so they don’t sit around waiting for you. It’s being considerate.
I’ve decided to eliminate my toxic relationships.
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It’s difficult, especially when you two have had many good times together. Still, I second the elimination.
@Jasmin,
The better times were in college. I graduated a year ahead of her. It was easier to do fun things because we were very close to the city. Taking the train it wasn’t a big deal. You really didn’t need a car. The MBTA is right next to our campus. It was easier, a lot easier. I think it was easier because in college we didn’t have any major responsibilties. Now that college is over, it’s like all I’ve got really is paying off my MacBook computer (I sold my soul to Apple, and worth every penny), bils, and my job. She’s got the same responsibilties, except for the computer… but credit cards, student loans, etc.
The chances of us now going out are slim to none. It’s not like I ever really had fun with the girl because she’d always have me waiting on her watch. It’s a classic behavior of hers. We’ll make plans early in the week, trying to confirm the plans– but never even become “confirmed” until the last minute. We’d talk about it all week, I trying to confirm it, set up a plan… she’s somewhat agree to it, but never fully agree. Half agree, if there is such a thing.
I hate babbling on, but I’m ready for a positive relationship.